The final phase of the cycle is the set-up phase. In this phase the abuser sets the victim up in order to put his plan in motion. The abusive will create a situation in which he can justify abusing the victim, and the cycle starts all over again.
The abuser’s apologies and loving gestures in between the episodes of abuse can make it difficult to leave. He may make the victim believe that she is the only person who can help him, that he can change, and that he truly cares. The dangers of staying in an abusive relationship are very real, and may even be life threatening.